Do groups promote blind following?

Our textbook says "Groups tell us what to think and feel and how to act. We are who we are because of the groups we have been a part of."

I won't quite ask if you agree with the statement, at the risk of this sounding like an essay question. But I did have quite a few thoughts run through my mind after I read the statement, and would appreciate very much for your opinions to be raised also!

The quoted statement is quite hard to swallow, especially in this age of rising individualism. People actually like being unique, and don't quite care for the idea of seeing someone else wearing the same shirt we have on. However, as much as we have these people who like to stand out and be admired/followed/worshiped/outcasted/gawked at, there will also be other people who like to blend in and don't feel the dying need to be noticed.

That said, the above statement does have some truth. I think almost everybody has been in situations where you’re influenced by the groups you find yourself in. We can get gently tugged to think green is the new black or forcefully coerced to adopt similar values/habits/beliefs. (Like how gangs force on tattoos to mark their members)

I recall, not too long ago, being influenced to think that going overseas for a degree was the way for me, largely due to the group of people I was with. The ones closest to me were jetting off overseas and I thought I wanted that life as well.

In some ways, I think the influencing power of groups also translates to trends. When more people do something, there is a level of comfort and assurance for the others to follow that option as well. It is as if the way is tried and tested, and more people flock to that path, as if they were being told how to think feel and how to act. Or the more people do it, the more confirmation we receive that this path is socially acceptable, and the more we are inclined to follow that trend. You think so?

Smother

The first time I saw this movie, I was channel surfing, so I didn't know what I was in for. I did not even know the title of the show. But I now realize that Smother is a really apt title since the show tells of a overly-dramatic mother who has a really big hold on her son those around her, becoming quite a sMOTHERing influence.

The movie is quite comedic, and I really like how Noah (Dax Shepherd) reminds me of JD (Zack Braff) in Scrubs! They have the same quality of being charming when making snide comments. While Sandra Hall of the Sydney Morning Herald reviewed the movie largely on Diane Keaton's acting, I shall not comment on the movie based on any one actor. Instead, I will concentrate on the plot and their characters. Her review is available at http://www.smh.com.au/news/film-reviews/smother/2008/05/09/1210131239494.html.

I feel for Noah, who is going through an impossible 5 days in his life, where he loses his job as a physiotherapist, find his parents fighting, having his mother inviting herself into his home and getting a job with his mother, among others. I realise both his parents have quite a short attention span, especially Marilyn (Diane Keaton), who is probably the cause of the dramatic situation. Noah sums it up quite well when he says "I think my mother needs chaos in her life to function."

Also, Marilyn slowly winding the window up as Noah tries to talk with her is a classic example of how she is governed by her own perceptions and is not interested in what her rational son is trying to tell her. Later, it is revealed that Marilyn has been feeling unaccomplished in her life, which is not uncommon, I believe, for people as they go into retirement and begin to evaluate everything they've done, sometimes fearing their life has not been worth much. It was also quite heartwarming when she talked of her son as "an extraordinary person that comes out of your own imperfections". This struck a chord since Noah had been afraid of having a baby with Clare, feeling like he would be an inadequate father.